Friends Walk Together

 Girlfriends should understand each other completely . . .  they shouldn’t have to be fancy or talk in a special way or wear their best clothes and shoes when they are spending time together. They shouldn’t have to count calories or act like they are someone they that they are not. They should be able to speak their mind or say nothing at all, depending on their mood. They shouldn’t have to try hard to impress you or think of important things to say.

With girlfriends everything is important and I they should be able to just be themselves with you and share their secrets, laughter and dreams if you aren’t enjoying your girlfriends consider  . . . walking a mile in their shoes.

Walking a mile in your friends shoes will enable you to see around the corner of your own assumptions, to discover that it’s an opportunity for learning empathy from the inside by experiencing your own behavior through the others persons consciousness as you assume for a moment her emotional identity.

If you are having trouble identifying with what your friend is feeling, if her high heels are too big or if her glass slipper only has room for your big toe, here’s an exercise you can try. Begin saying, ” I am . . .  ” and call yourself by your friend’s name. Then pretending you are she,  start talking about what’s going on with “you.”

What’s up setting or delighting you now? What has bruised or damped your spirits? Try to see from inside her consciousness and heart how your own assumptions or your behaviors feel when you are the person on the receiving end. Be honest with yourself. Have you been critical of her? Maybe you haven’t been as supportive as you could have been? Have you been blaming her when really you’re at just much at fault as she is?

 Take sometime and honestly figure out what can you change about yourself so you can become the kind of friend who is understanding and consoling to your friends? Try walking in your friends shoes for a while it can be a very useful and moving experience, especially when the two of you are at an emotional impasse.

 Consider it  an opportunity for learning empathy from the inside by experiencing your own behavior through your friends consciousness and heart as you assume for a moment her emotional identity . “Being” her can move you very readily to a point of compassion that inevitable clears the way for more understanding between you. So let your friend know that you understand how they feel and what’s in their heart. Make sure you share with them what’s on your mind and in your heart . . . in words and gestures.

I prayed for my girl friends today. How about you? I gave thanks for our friendship and wished the best for them,  I asked the heavens to bless them with good health and happiness. I sent them good thoughts, surrounded them with hope, faith, and love . I asked that they be kept safe from harm.

~ Miss Carol Jo~

“Friends Are The Sweet Smelling Spices Of Life”

Friends are the sweet-smelling spices of life that touch our senses when nothing but a hug or jumping for joy will do! Friends come and go, like seasons or sitcoms. Blooming early in our lives, friendships curl up and scatter with the winds of years gone by, but throughout life they are at the most Godgiven times, to lift our heads after a particularly trying day. Or to laugh, like mad at a funny story told well. The perfect gift of friendship may be shared with a friend from long ago, or with a new friend.

Sister’s in Christ are like family in heart and they are the ones we feel whole with. They are the ones we share who we really are,  they understand and know where we’re coming from. They know all we’ve been through and everything we’re dreaming about. They are our maid of honors, our god mothers to our children, and our cheer leaders. They are the ones can we tell anything to, ask anything of and do anything for. They are the ones we tell all our truths to, the ones we give our whole heart to.

She is absolute acceptance, abiding affection, and unconditional caring, just spending a moment with her chases all your cares away and puts a smile on your face when she prays for you. She is the one who believes in you, the one you can call on anytime, the one who never lets you down. She fills a unique space in your life. She’s a piece of your very heart and soul because of her you know without a doubt that God’s love will get you through anything. She is your prayer warrior.

~ Miss Carol Jo ~